Friday, November 28, 2008

How the Bears Became Bad News and the Ducks Became Mighty.

Baseball may have taught me a lot, but nobody taught me a lot about baseball. I remember getting yelled at in Little League for messing up a play or batting poorly. Lots of people were willing to tell me what I did wrong, but very few people would show me how to do it right. There’s a reason I gave up playing the game for playing punk music. Mistakes were acceptable if not celebrated, and it was easy enough to teach myself anything I needed to know. Even so, I still wish I had that cinematic baseball team where a coach comes to turn a bunch of misfits into all-stars.

I’ve been in Michigan for the last three weeks and seen lots of old friends. Some of them have asked me how I like living in Nashville. Even though I lived in Michigan most of my life and moved only a year ago, I tell them that Nashville is my home. When they ask me why I like it so much, I used to tell them that I’m pleased to live where God wants me. While that’s true, I realize that I have another answer. I have people in Nashville who train me in discipleship. It’s like I found the Little League coach I always wanted. Until I moved to Nashville, I never understood the value of discipline and discipleship.

I used to identify the word “discipline” with punishment. Anything else was training. The Bible used the word discipline in terms of punishment sometimes and many a Baptist child heard these verses. Proverbs 22:15, for example, “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of discipline will remove it far from him.” Or the famous Proverbs 13:24, “He who withholds his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.” Dang, right? Imagine how blessed you’d feel hearing someone quote those verses after hitting you with a belt.

But more often than not, scripture talks about discipline as if it’s the greatest thing in the whole world. Hebrews 12 talks of how God disciplines to train us in holiness. Verse 11 says, “All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” And in Revelation 3, in a letter to Sardis, God says, “Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline; therefore be zealous and repent.” Paul rejoiced at the discipline of the church in Colossians 2:5.

We can easily get the wrong idea about discipline. It’s not punishment for its own sake. It’s not hateful correction. Like children, we think we know the best way to live, but we would mature poorly if we didn’t have people to train us. The disciples weren’t masochists, as far as I know. They wanted Jesus to show them how He lived His life. Instead of studying in the back of some synagogue for an allotted amount of time, they followed Him everywhere, listened to every word, asked Him all sorts of questions. “How should we pray?” “How many times should I forgive my brother?” “Should I pay my taxes?”

Alright, so discipline isn’t as bad as it sounds. It develops a mature way of life. But what does that have to do with living in Nashville? I have people in Nashville who meet with me regularly, whether intentionally or otherwise, to encourage me towards discipline. Then I turn it around and help other people with the same encouragement. It’s created a community of people seeking to develop a mature relationship with God, help each other reach those goals, stay accountable, and celebrate the growth. This gives me even more incentive to build and maintain an intimate relationship with God knowing that it helps my church. Paul mentions this kind of other-centered discipline in Romans 15:1-2. “Now we who are strong ought to bear the weaknesses of those without strength and not just please ourselves. Each of us is to please his neighbor for his good, to his edification.”

I’m glad I grew up in Michigan. But taken away from the culture of discipline that I’ve found in Tennessee, I fall back into old patterns and live less than extraordinarily. How often does this happen to you? How easy is it? That’s a pretty good sign that I’m still learning. I’m not ready for the travel team yet. I found myself saying the very words a friend told me about his lack of discipline. The decline in discipline almost made me think that I had begun to desire God less. I’m a forgetful person who needs others to remind me of my hunger for God. If I could do it on my own, why would Paul spend all of 1 Corinthians 12 saying that members of the Church were given different gifts so they could work together as a body with different parts?

The different parts of the body depend on each other. They are responsible to each other. They train and build together. They become strong and focused. They are able to accomplish their goals with skill. If the body is supposed to be a picture of the church, how out of shape is yours? In 1 Timothy 4, Paul instructs Timothy how to deal with false teachings and says, “But have nothing to do with worldly fables fit only for old women. On the other hand, discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness; for bodily discipline is only of little profit, but godliness is profitable for all things, since it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.”

I’ve said it before, but all I want from life is to glorify God and point others to Jesus. When I die, put it on the stone. I can’t accomplish these things effectively on my own. I’ve tried. It doesn’t work. I burn out too quickly and lose heart. I need people to cheer me on, train me, keep me going towards that goal. How else am I going to make a big play in the championship game?

I once wrote about the church as a team. Here are some questions that might apply well to the analogy. How well do you know the people in your church? When you gather, do you encourage each other in righteousness? Are you willing to submit to spiritual authority? You don’t have to answer all of those questions right now. Let’s start with this one. When you think about discipline, do you think of it as a means to victory?

8 comments:

Joe Martino said...

It's interesting you essentially say that if you stayed here you'd fall back into old bad habits. It's an interesting group dynamic that often a change of scenery is important for a complete change. The problem is the price that change of scenery can often exact is high. Of course, there is also in inherent danger. No real change (3rd order) ever occurs b/c we become addicted to the "change of scenery" and it provides a false sense of change.
Both extremes can be hard to navigate. Blessings as you seek to do just that.

Isaiah Kallman said...

I see what you're saying. The circumstances might be different, though, if I had been involved in a church in Michigan that focused so much on discipleship.

leanna said...

funny, nashville does the exact opposite for me. i've yet to attend a church i even enjoy. i miss oklahoma city for that very reason. i've glad you've had the fortune of finding goodness here. i wish i had more to old onto in this town than a damn good pediatric cardiologist.

BrotherJoshua said...

I've thought about it as a means to victory for a long time . . . unfortunately, until quite recently, I didn't want victory.
That's my request. Blog about that. I can't do it without making it about me, but it's all over the old testament like fat on a shank bone.

Joe Martino said...

Isaiah, if there is one thing I've learned in my old age it is that we alone are responsible for our discipleship. Don't get me wrong, I think it is great that you have found what you are looking for in Nashville. But our discipleship or lack thereof is on us. Not our church, or our parents, just us.

Isaiah Kallman said...

Joe, you're one of my favorite bulldogs. And you make a good point. We are the ones responsible for finding spiritual authority. It may be that, in my case, God hadn't directed me to anyone because He was calling me away from Michigan. So you're right, it was my responsibility to find discipleship. And when I asked God where to go, He led me to Tennessee. I'm sorry if I made it sound like Michigan was spiritual poison.

You have to admit this, though. Some, or many, churches don't have a discipleship focus. Why is it so common and acceptable for a church to hire people outside their congregation into the staff? I especially ask this question of large churches. Why aren't they raising their own leaders?

Joe Martino said...

Isaiah, I agree with you on churches needing to do more discipleship and I could tell you stories about hiring processes that would make you pluck out that beautiful beard of yours. I agree with you on much of what you said in this post. My original comment was more to point out how hard it is to change when we are in the environment that formed the things we need to change. I also wanted to point out that some people move because it gives the feeling of change, but doesn't produce real change. I was thinking of people who change churches every 18 months to two years. I truly wasn't trying to say you or even thinking of you, for that part of the comment.
I do think you have to be careful that you don't disparage your old church too much. No church is perfect and I am certain given enough time I could meet people from your current church who would have many of the same complaints that you have about your old church. (how's that for a wordy sentence?)
I think Leanna Jackson would be a perfect example of that. She says that Nashville does the exact opposite for her that it does for you.
The danger for you is that you can be lulled into thinking you don't have to navigate the waters the same way in Nashville, as you do here in Michigan.
What I was trying to get at in the first comment is that if what you have found is true change (and I have no reason to suspect it is not), then eventually you will come to the place where you could be back in Michigan and not fall into the old habits. That is how you know how real the change has become. There is a difference between the person who does not commit a action because they've never been tempted or have successfully removed the temptation and the person who can live amongst the temptation and not give in.
Does that make sense? I'll illustrate it this way: I knew a young man and woman who were committed to "no dating." They were going to "court." Bill Gothard played the piano while Joshua Harris strummed along on his guitar. It was beautiful! (Lot's of sarcasm).
Then when the young man went to get permission to court the girl, he was denied. Suddenly they didn't believe in courting anymore.
Sticking with your OP analogy. A baseball team can only practice so much. Eventually you have to step on the diamond and let the ball go. Sometimes, you lose. That isn't bad. It just means you need to keep practicing.

Isaiah Kallman said...

Joe, please comment on my weblog more often.